I read posts and birth stories like this way too often. This woman harbors so much anger toward the people who were careless toward her during the births of her children. She learned about what had really happened to her after the birth. She writes:
“To the nurse who insisted that she had to start Pitocin just because she had also “accidentally” broken my water:
NO. NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. Get the EFF away from me with that Pitocin or there will be hell to pay. That Pitocin is going to hyperstimulate my uterus, put my baby in distress, and ultimately start me on a cascade of risky interventions that will lead to a traumatic surgery that will scar my insides, literally and figuratively, for the rest of my life. PUT IT DOWN AND BACK AWAY! And don’t you DARE try to act like I’m a silly moron for questioning the things you’re putting in my veins.
Many highly trained birth and psychology professionals agree that birth imprints memories on us in a way that can’t be shaken, which can be especially hard to process if they are negative feelings.” – – The Feminist Breeder www.thefeministbreeder.com
As I read this, my heart breaks. It is for this woman and for every woman that I wrote BIRTHRIGHT. How do I get it into women’s hands before they hate their birth experiences?
Giving birth can be Amazing, gentle, empowering, and even fun
Birthright is a book to empower women during pregnancy and birth – no matter where you choose to give birth. If it’s at home, the book helps you negotiate and prepare for that route. If it’s the hospital, it helps you to prepare yourself and your team to be the authority over your own experience. There are many things you can do to help ensure you have a wonderful hospital experience – from choosing a doctor who champions natural birth, to putting a sign on your door that says something like: Natural Childbirth in Progress – please do not offer any drugs or intervention. Enter only if you are totally supportive of this family’s decision.
At the moment my second son was crowning, I had the pure joy of unhindered, unattended birth; the midwife was still 5 minutes away, speeding through the pouring rain. Even I, Ms. Empowered Birth herself, felt the need to ask those around me (my husband, his sister, and my mom) “Can I push?” What in Heaven’s name? Feeling like birth is something we don’t know how to do has been shoved so far into our psyches that even during this precious, coveted, unattended moment of birthing like a walrus, a horse or a monkey, I felt the need to ask if I could push. No one answered, so I pushed heaven out in a river of amniotic fluid right there on my bed. I still remember feeling disempowered though!
Birthright seeks to change this forever, to bring birth back to the mother, and to render the majority of births gentle and intervention free. For all of the women out there who have yet to give birth, you need to know that giving birth can be the most amazing thing you will ever do. The births of my two sons stand together as the two greatest days of my life without a doubt.
Please help me educate young women about the possibility of owning birth. Give Birthright to every pregnant woman on the planet. Please forward this post. Apparently I’m not the only one who thinks that gentle, conscious, empowered birth would make the world a much better place. 😀